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I need feminism because
It’s acceptable to call me a slut.
I need feminism because
It’s okay for a guy to slap my butt.
I need feminism because
It’s my own fault if a man rapes me.
I need feminism because
I should look good for men to see.
I need feminism because
People think it means ‘anti-man’.
I need feminism because
I can’t do things that men can.
I need feminism because
Girls think it’s cool to shame each other.
I need feminism because
The world has higher hopes for my brother.
I need feminism because
My femininity makes me ‘weak’.
I need feminism because
If I act masculine I’m a ‘freak’.
I need feminism because
My boobs are my ‘best quality’.
I need feminism because
I believe in equality.
Please let me know what you think :)



Okay. Woah.

So this has gotten a very diverse reaction, which I think is great; everyone's entitled to an opinion. A few of the comments are a tad aggressive and I kind of feel like I'm being accused of being a man-hating bitch or whatever. I'm sorry if this poem made me come across as such; if so, I'm sincerely sorry. So, I've decided to clear a few things up.

Firstly, know that it's not okay "for a guy to slap my butt". I know that, technically, it's illegal and counts as sexual harassment. However, some people still think it's an okay thing to do. I can testify this as I've been groped a fair few number of times by men I didn't know. One example would would be at a gig I went to, a lot of gigs I've been to, and men thought it was okay to slap/grab my bottom or cop a feel of my boobs. Just because it's illegal, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen, the same goes for drugs - just because their illegal it doesn't mean that people don't take them.

I know that, if I got raped it wouldn't be my fault. However, there is so much victim-blaming going on in the world that it physically sickens me. People saying that the victim was 'asking for it' by wearing skimpy clothes or flirting. At the end of the day, rape is wrong no matter what. If the victim was stood there absolutely naked then she/he still wouldn't be asking for it.  

Feminism is not anti-man. Some people who call themselves feminists might be that way but, personally, I am not. It's not what feminism means. Not at all. Feminism is a faction in the fight for equality for all, regardless of race, gender, religion, sexuality, identity or any other issue. Feminism isn't about women being better than men; it's about all of us being equal. Feminism is an idea, a concept, and that's what it means to me.

MY USERNAME IS A REFERENCE TO NIRVANA - I AM NOT CALLING MYSELF A WHORE IN A SERIOUS SENSE.




I'm kinda sick of this poem, to be honest. Thus I'M NOT GOING TO RESPOND TO ANY MORE COMMENTS ON IT. However, feel free to comment and interact with each other. If you want me to answer something, feel free to note me.
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Reddzion Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2014  Student General Artist
I like it, it also makes me wonder how things would be the other way around, like if women/society treated men like how men/society treated women. Like how its "acceptable" for a guy to slap a girl's butt or stare at her boobs, what if a girl slapped a guy's butt or stared at his crotch would that be considered "acceptable"? 
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Briannabater Featured By Owner Nov 13, 2014  Professional Photographer
Yep.  And the last 44 presidents have all been women, but I'm sure it's just a coincidence.   :P
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Wendrom Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014  Professional Interface Designer
This poem is very important. I believe more people need to understand these serious issues.
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Briannabater Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014  Professional Photographer
Hear, hear.
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Briannabater Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Professional Photographer
Thanks for writing this and sharing.  I agree 100%.
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ComixThreeSevens Featured By Owner Oct 14, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
You live in your tiny, pathetic world of delusions. And I'm glad you do. Because of your own stupidity, you will be always living in a world where you feel discriminated. It's not true, but your tiny little brain cannot comprehend this. You basically created your own punishment.
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Briannabater Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Professional Photographer
Why would you think that it's okay to say something like this?

Did you just misunderstand what she wrote?
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Dartmaul15 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2014
He understand it perfectly well, i'm afraid. The whole "i need feminism because" is like saying "i can't stand up on my own, so i need a collective to hide behind".
You're not solvieng anything by hiding in a collective, you're solving it by stepping out and proving yourself to be a stong independent woman who doesn't take shit from men. Because respect isn't demanded, it's earned. I do agree that it's way too easy for men, and too hard for women to get it, but that's not changing the fact that nobody will give you respect unless you earn it.
Boys have to earn it, we have to prove our worth. You have school grades, the army, work life... we always have to earn our value. Isn't it just fair girls have to do so too? And to earn your value it won't work to cry about something, you need to stand up strong, stick out of the crowd, and WORK to earn your value. Just like i have to do. Because that's how society works.

And the fact she ends this shit with "i believe in equality" uttelry disgusts me. She have made 11 legitimate claims about women's problems, and 0 about men's problems. That's not equality to me, that's not a focus on both gender's problems. If she REALLY wanted equality she'd devote time to men's problems too. She's a pureblood feminist, but no way in hell i'd label her an equalist based on this poem.

Rant over.
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Briannabater Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2014  Professional Photographer
Feminists are pushing for equality of opportunity.  And yes, that means we don't have that now.

Maybe they're a lot closer in Norway, but most people reading this are from the US or elsewhere, and we've never had a female head of state.  Ever.

Our society has a lot of institutional sexism against women, and really none against men.

You can ignore that if you want.  That's one of the many privileges our society gives to men.

There's no such thing as institutional "reverse racism" and no such thing as institutional "reverse sexism" against men. 

If a woman speaks out against sexism and makes what even you yourself call "legitimate claims," it seems that you think the responsible thing to do it to shout her down.

And here's the real kicker.  As a white guy, you think you have the authority to say feminists are legitimate or not.
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Dartmaul15 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2014
True, EQUALITY have not come too far in usa.

FEMINISM by definition is all about women. It does not hold any room for men or men's problems. They're pushing for equality in areas were women are currently getting the shorter straw. Yes, i think shit needs to be fixed ASAP, but it's the wrong way to do it. You need to realize that you need to focus on both gender's problems, and the moment you do that you cease being a feminist. Because you're now an equalist.

You want to know an area where women are privilegied (at least here in norway), divorce cases and parental conflicts. There men are the ones getting the shorter straw, for no apparent reason. I believe i just pointed out "reverse sexism" as you so kindly put it. Or what about the whole dilemma of "woman hit man. If man hit back he's a woman beater, if man just take it he's a pussy for not fighting back". Or what about the stigma towards virgin men, or towards non muscular men? You see, it isn't one sided. The public just loves women's problems.

I suggest you read nora vincent's "self-made man". It's about a female who lived 18 months as a male. Quite an interresting tale (would've been cool if some men did it the other way too XD). Maybe you'll see that there are in fact things we men wish could be improved. . So let's do one thing; fix BOTH men's problems AND women's problems? okay?

The responsible thing when a woman stands up against sexism is making sure she's doing it the right way. You don't get change by demanding everyone else to adapt, you need to get in there and do the dirty work. You don't immediately become a CEO, you have to work the hard way. I'm not intending to shoot down any feminists, I'm simply intending to make them realize that the moment they demand being treated equally, they are no longer pampered for, put on a pedestal, treated like a fragile glass statue, or generally protected like they are (historically) used to. And that trial by fire is hard.
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